What is Empty Nest Syndrome: how to cope and live your new purpose when your children leave home

I let out a startled yelp and leapt back from the changing table. The nursing sister hurried over, laughing as she saw what had happened. My newborn son, just a few hours old, had “christened” his mother (me) in the hospital nursery! My firstborn is a daughter, so I had no idea that baby boys react to the cold air in that way when their diaper is removed:)

Today, I watched that boy walk through the international check-in counter at the airport and leave for a foreign country for a year to go and teach English. Although I still have my two girls at home, I am feeling the effects of the empty nest syndrome

Leaving the Empty Nest

What is empty nest syndrome?

If you have been a parent and have spent significant time raising children, the empty nest will become a reality for you sooner or later! Empty nest syndrome refers to the sense of sadness, emptiness and grief that many parents feel when their children grow up and leave home. 

After years of having your child or children in the house, it can be quite a shock when they leave home for college, move to another town to work, go abroad or move out to get married. After all the years of having them under your roof, providing for them, directing their lives and schedules (younger children), the family meals and noise, laughter and their friends coming over, the house can suddenly seem empty and lifeless. 

Empty Nest Syndrome

Types of Empty Nest

Temporary Empty Nest

Over the years, as your children were growing up, you may have experienced a sort of “temporary” empty nest from time to time, if they attended a summer camp, went on holiday with friends or had extended sleep overs with their friends. Perhaps you really missed them then, and could not wait for them to return, or perhaps it was a little time for yourself to recharge and enjoy? 

If you allowed your children to do those activities, you have had some small measure of the empty nest, particularly if your children were all away at the same time. It allowed you to cut the apron strings a little at a time. 

This type of empty nest is doable for most parents, as you know your children are soon coming back. It means a temporary change of routine, and a quiet house for a short while.

Phased Empty Nest

You may experience a phased empty nest when you have several children. The eldest finishes school and moves out to college but you may still have other children in the house. Although you miss your firstborn, you are still busy with your younger children, and you learn, after a time of adjustment, to move on with your daily life. 

You keep in touch with your eldest, and it hurts you when they are homesick or having trouble with adjusting to their independence. As time goes by, both you and the fledgling adult child learn to adjust and cope in your new situation. 

It becomes a little more bearable if you get to see your child a few times a year, for vacation time or semester breaks. They still have a bedroom in your home and most of their stuff is still there. It is difficult for you when they go back to college, but you learn to look forward to a few weeks or months time when they will be back. 

It is more difficult if, as in my situation, when you know that you will not see that child for a year or more, and chances are that they will never live at home again. It’s an ending of sorts.

Total Empty Nest

As time goes by, and one by one, your children grow up and leave school and make decisions about what to do with their lives, you inch closer to the total empty nest. Your nest continues to empty out, until your last little “duckling” has matured and flown away to start their grand new adventure called life!

This is devasting to many parents, particularly mothers who have been intricately involved in their children’s lives from before birth. Your house feels empty, too quiet and too big! Your life may seem empty without your children to care for for. If you are single, the quietness and loneliness is even more difficult. 

Empty Nest

Factors affecting the severity of the empty nest

Almost all mothers will be affected in some measure by empty nest syndrome. Some are able to adjust quite quickly, but for other moms, it’s a painful, painful thing:(

Several factors will influence how difficult you find the empty nest phase of your life:

Relationships and closeness of the family

Your family structure and the closeness of your relationship with all your children plays a definite part. If you were a very hands-on mother, involved in your children’s everyday lives, it will be a difficult transition. No more early morning chats over coffee with your firstborn, no more taking your youngest to school or to the dentist, or sports practise. Those activities which were sometimes a pain in the neck, will now be missed!

If your children were doing a lot for themselves during high school, and your involvement started lessening then, it may be slightly easier for you. Some children are quite independent from a young age and don’t want their mother fussing over them:)

Your life satisfaction and phase of life

  • Where are you in your life when the empty nest is happening? 
  • Are you going through menopause, or are you not there yet?
  •  Do you have a career which is going well – are you productive in other ways? 
  • How happy are you with your life aside from the children growing up and leaving?

All of those questions have an impact on the severity of your empty nest syndrome. If you don’t have a job, or other outside interests, it may seem like your life’s purpose is gone. 

Having a job or something to fill your time

If you have devoted your time, attention and energy on raising your children and have no outside job, hobby or even volunteer work, you will feel the empty nest more keenly. Everything you have filled your time with before is now gone! This can leave you feeling totally aimless and lost. 

Marriage

If you are married, the state of your marriage will also determine how you transition through the empty nest syndrome. If your marriage has revolved around the children and you did not take the time to nurture your status as a couple, you may find that you have little to talk about when the children leave home. You may feel like strangers to one another. 

Sadly, some marriages which are not strong, or have problems which are unresolved, seem to break down totally once the children leave. Many people have the notion of “staying together until the children leave” and midlife divorces are quite commonplace. It is particularly sad to see the end of long-term marriages where people find that their reason for staying together was the children, and once they leave home, they find no reason to stay married. 

If your marriage is strong, this life transition will be a little easier to bear, and your marriage may even grow stronger as you will have more time to devote to each other! 

What you can do to help yourself cope

Here are some things you can do if you’re facing, or currently struggling with the empty nest sydrome:

Give yourself permission to cry and grieve

The first step to coping with the empty nest is to acknowledge your feelings of pain and loss. You have lost the family life that you used to know. You have lost the important role of being a daily nurturer and confidante in the home. You have lost what was for many years, perhaps your major life role. 

You are allowed to grieve and feel sad as you have lost something precious to you. We all grieve when we lose something we love. 

The bright side is that the beloved child is just a phone call or Skype away. 

Start preparing before they leave

As your children grow and become more independent, you can start to get involved in things which don’t include them. Spend more time with other adults, develop a hobby or volunteer. Encourage their independence and teach them the life skills they’ll need as an adult. That way, you will not have to worry about how they will cope once they leave home!

Develop your friendships

If you are blessed to have one or two close friendships, particularly with women in the same phase of life as you are, you have someone who understands what you’re going through. You will be a great support to each other. Meet up regularly for coffee breaks and provide some “love with skin on” to each other.

Empty Nest Supportive friend

Do something you’ve always wanted to do (but never had the time)

When your children were young, your hands were full of mothering responsibilities which kept you busy. Mothers of young children very often have no time for themselves. Even as the children grow up, you may find yourself using your spare time for car-pooling, homework helping and counseling teenagers. 

When your children are independent teenagers and young adults, even if they’re still at home, you can start to develop a “passion project!” Always wanted to learn French? Do it! Always wished to play the piano? Take lessons! Have you always had a dream to climb Kilimanjaro? Make an action plan, train and do it lady! Now is your chance! 

Make goals to look forward to and work towards them

Following on from the Kilimanjaro example, set yourself a few exciting goals! Something that you’ve always wanted to do, that excites you:) 

Now that you have the time, do this for you! Your life is not over! This could be the most exciting time of your life yet! 

Go back to college (or learn something new)

If you’ve always wished that you had a college degree, now is your chance. Perhaps you never had the opportunity to study after school due to family commitments? Well, you can now! 

My mother-in-law started studying at the age of 50, and 4 years later received her Bachelor of Administration degree! At that point, her two eldest sons (my husband is one of them), were out of the house, and the two youngest were in high school. She was able to use her college education in her job for a few years before she retired. Even if you don’t have a job, there is a great sense of accomplishment in hanging that degree or diploma on your wall! It is something that no one can ever take away from you!

If you like learning new things but don’t want to commit to a formal degree, there are amazing courses you can do online! You can learn a new skill (to use in your job if you have one), or learn something you are interested in just for fun. 

Practise self care

  • Lose that weight! 
  • Go for a regular facial. 
  • Do your nails. 
  • Learn how to eat healthy – learn to cook healthy meals
  • Exercise regularly
  • Go for health checks every year
  • Look after yourself!
  • Get enough rest

Looking after yourself will reduce your risk of serious health problems related to menopause and aging, such as heart disease and strokes, as well as lift your mood and prevent depression from setting in. 

Build up your marriage

  • Devoting the time you would have spent on the children to your husband and your marriage could transform your relationship to better than ever! You could rediscover your partner in ways long forgotten:)
  • Start “dating” again and build some fun activities into your schedule.
  • Remember, your husband, especially if he was a hands-on type of dad, could also be missing the children and feeling the empty nest keenly. However, society dictates that he can’t show his feelings as openly as you can. 

Clear up the children’s rooms after they leave

  • If your child is away at college and will be coming back home a lot, they will still want their stuff, so just tidy their room up to your satisfaction:) At last you get the chance to do this!!
  • For the child who has moved out permanently (moved to another state, country, got married or moved to their own place), that space is now yours, and available to be used in another way:) Make it into your “Mama Den!” You get to exercise there, do your crafting there, blog or write, do your Bible Study or just chill! 
  • If however, the thought of repurposing the room just yet, and walking past your childs bedroom door upsets you, keep it closed. Once you are feeling stronger, you may have to tidy up in there for your sanity!
  • You will most likely feel nostalgic doing this and even shed a few tears when you find a long-forgotten piece of artwork from kindergarten, a worn-out baseball mitt from Little League or the outgrown ballet pumps. Perhaps even an article of clothing you remember so well which did not make the cut to go to collegue, or move with your child. 
  • If your child is a hoarder and you are not sure if they would want to keep certain items, pack them away in the closet. When they come home on a break, ask them what they want to keep. Donate or repurpose the rest of the items. If you don’t you’ll still be finding unwanted items 10 years from now, or have extra to pack up if you ever want to move!

Downsize your home

  • In our case, we are sitting with a large 5-bedroom house (we use one room as a study), and are strongly thinking of downsizing to a smaller place. Although we still have our two daughters with us, the eldest girl is making plans to move overseas for work, or find her own place, and the youngest is in her final year at school. 
  • We have no need for a big house like we have raised our children in. We are looking at plans of our own as to where to live and what we need for this phase of our lives. Time to fix up the house to sell so that another family can happily raise their children here. 

Empty Nest downsize

Explore your spirituality – connect with God

  • If you have never pursued your spirituality, you will find that doing so will give you peace and purpose in this phase of your life. God has a plan for you now that you have raised your children. 
  • Seek God in the following ways:
  • Find a Bible-believing church nearby. Many have Women’s Groups and you may be able to connect with other women and even make some new friends. 
  • Read your Bible. If you don’t have one, it is easy to download one off the internet. You will find many fascinating things in the Bible which is filled with wisdom for daily living, and comfort for the soul!
  • Pray. Ask God to reveal Himself to you as He never has before. Ask Him to give you strength and peace as you negotiate through this phase of life and He will. God loves you and will be found by you if you earnestly seek Him. (Jeremiah 29:13)

Seek help for depression

  • If you find that you are so depressed that you have lost your joy in life and have no energy, seek help fast! It is common to hit a slump when you reach midlife and everything you knew about life changes. It is often hard to bear and many women need help at this time.
  • Remember, you are NOT alone. There is a mighty tribe of amazing women worldwide who are going through the same thing! And you are amazing! You have successfully raised children to (young) adulthood and given them wings to fly! 
  • Try speaking to a close friend who has successfully transitioned through the empty nest, or is also going through this stage. 
  • Speak to a professional therapist if there is no one you can talk to. It can make the sun shine for you again!

Moving on and thriving after the empty nest

Remember the dreams you had before you became a mother? It’s not too late to dream again! You now have time on your hands which you did not have for years while your were nurturing your nest of young ones. 

Remember, you have fulfilled an amazing purpose in this lifetime, mama! You have raised young adults who are competent and capable of spreading their wings and flying out of the nest! This is the purpose of parenting, giving our children wings to fly. We need to know that they will be okay after we’re gone – the cycle of life.

And we will be okay after they leave. A little lonely maybe, a little lost…for a while. Let the dreams of your youth see the light of day again. Find new dreams. Rediscover who you are. Be the amazing woman you were meant to be!

You can grow in this period of your life. Be the SuperMama,  and then SuperGrandmama your children know you are. Fill that empty nest with all that you are and can be. 

You owe it to yourself.

What is your experience of the empty nest? Was it difficult to adjust? What helped you cope? 

Support Your Exercise Routine with Healthy Habits

Exercise and Healthy Habits

Many people believe that, by adhering to a rigorous workout schedule, they are taking the best possible care of their bodies from day to day. However, exercise is only part of the overall picture of proper self-care. While physical activity does foster a positive mental state, lead to improved sleep, and increase your general health, other forms of self-care, like getting enough sleep each night and reducing stress, are necessary to become fully healthy. Here are some ways you can expand your current set of self-care routines to incorporate a more well-rounded picture of health.

 Be sure to get enough sleep

One of the greatest benefits of sticking to a regular fitness routine is how exercise makes it easier to get to sleep at night. Since many people have difficulty sticking to a regular nighttime routine, if you work out regularly, you are already ahead of the curve. While getting one good night of sleep is worthwhile, sleep really begins to provide its beneficial effects when the routine is maintained over an extended period of time. That helps get the rest of your bodily rhythms in order and will help to provide a good amount of energy that will last the entire day.

If you currently vary the time you go to bed each night, take the time to count backwards eight hours from the time you generally wake up. Add an extra 30 minutes to give yourself time to fall asleep, and set that as your lights-out time for the next week. If at the end of that week you find you need slightly more (or slightly less) sleep, adjust the timing accordingly. The amount of sleep each person needs is different. What is important is not only that you are getting a certain amount of sleep, but that you are getting a high-quality of sleep. Make your bedroom a cozy place by fixing yourself up with breathable sheets, dark curtains, and a quiet environment.

 Maintain a healthy lifestyle

While getting enough sleep makes it easier for you to make healthy choices during the day, you then have to actually make the decision each day to live a more healthy lifestyle. If you are passionate about exercise, it is likely you already watch how you eat. However, you may be able to improve your diet even more. Convenient as they may be, processed foods and restaurant meals often have added preservatives, salt, sugars, and other unnecessary things added in to make them more presentable or last longer. Making your own food is a great way to increase the amount of nutrients you get per meal, and it can help you feel better overall. If you are concerned about your time management, you may want to consider a fresh food delivery service. These kinds of services help you control meal contents, as well as the portion size, helping you lose weight and stick to a regular diet.

 Reduce stress overall

Finally, even if you are eating and sleeping well, you will also need to make sure that you are living as close to a stress-free life as you can manage. With your current schedule, you may be feeling overwhelmed due to a lack of time or an overabundance of things to do. It may seem counterintuitive, but it is important to be able to recognize that you are too busy, and develop the ability to say no to projects or outings if you need time to yourself.

By taking the time to exercise, you are already well on the way to becoming healthy overall. You can become even healthier by making sure you get enough sleep each night, eat healthy meals, and free up time to help reduce stress.

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Guest post by Sheila Olsen of http://fitsheila.com

How can I strengthen my faith in God when I want to believe in Him for a better life but I’m not sure that He loves me

You may have often pondered the question: how can I strengthen my faith in God because you have read, or you may know, that it is important to have a strong faith in God to survive in this life? Life is challenging in so many ways, and a strong faith certainly helps you to negotiate the tricky twists and turns that may happen in your life.

How to strengthen your faith in God

Many people grow up with a sense that there is a God, (for some, an Almighty Being), but they fail to develop a relationship with Him for many years, and some never do. That is sad, because the underlying belief is there. Obviously, some people go through life never believing that God exists at all.

Steps to strengthen your faith in God

Believe that He exists

To strengthen your faith in God, you would need to believe firstly that God exists, but not merely in a religious way. What I mean by this is that you need to  have experienced God in a real sense and know in the core of your being that He exists.

Hebrews 11:6 explains this very clearly: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him”.

If you truly believe that God exists, you already have a measure of faith as “without faith it is impossible to please Him”. We live in such a world of “seeing is believing”, of the tangible, that we need to have faith to believe that God exists.

Our very creation in all its splendor shows us that He exists! “The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament shows his handiwork. Day unto day utters speech, and night unto night reveals knowledge. There is no speech nor language where their voice is not heard” (Psalm 19:1-3).

The heavens declare the glory of God

There are very many references in the Bible about the existence of God. Of course, if you doubt God’s existence, you probably would not be reading this post (unless out of curiosity). Perhaps you have a very logical, intellectual brain which makes you doubt that God exists? It is so important to your human existence to find out and explore for yourself about the existence of God!

Once you do believe that God exists, you need to have a relationship with Him. He is a relationship God and wants to be in relationship with His creation – You! (Psalm 8: 3-5; Revelation 3:20; John 3:16)

Build a relationship with God

You need to know God and not just know of Him! For instance, we know that Mother Teresa existed, but we did not know her. We did not have a relationship with her.

How do you build a relationship with anyone? Spend time with them of course! To spend time with God, you can do several things:

  • Spend time daily reading the Word of God – the Bible.
    • If you don’t know where to start, try reading through the Gospel of John. It speaks about the life of Jesus and how He, as the living Word of God became flesh and dwelt among us.
    • Also read the Psalms for such beautiful, picturesque imagery.
    • Use a Bible Concordence to look up any subject you’d like to explore.
  • Spend time praying to God
    • How do you pray to God? If you’ve never done this, it may seem strange to you. Perhaps you remember from your childhood, or even from a TV show, the words of the Lord’s Prayer, or the “Our Father” prayer as it is sometimes known? (Matthew 6:9-13; Luke 11: 2-4). That is a start, and covers the fundamentals of what to pray.
    • You don’t need to pray the same prayer every day. Prayer is highly personal. Speak to God about what is on your heart – He listens to your heart. Confide your problems, ask Him for help and guidance. Your prayers should be heart-felt, and not ritualistic! God loves the individual you.

Prayer is highly personal

  • Attend a Bible-believing church
    • Many people are resistent to attending church because they may have been hurt by church or “church people”. They say, “I believe, I pray, why go to church?” Quite right of course, you can be a believer and not go to church.
    • Remember that you attend church to hear the Word of God, not because of the pastor or of other people. Look to God when you attend church, not to others. Build relationships with other believers.
  • Spend time with people who are God-followers
    • Hebrew 10:25 tells us that we should not forsake the fellowship of other believers, so it is found in the Bible that we should do this.
    • The importance of spending time with other believers cannot be underestimated. 1) It cuts down loneliness and isolation, and helps you to feel part of a group with common interests. 2) As a group, you can work together to achieve great things and make a difference in the community. 3) You can experience “love with skin on”. Get a heartfelt hug at the end of a service if you need to be loved on – something your TV cannot do for you after a TV service! 4) Gain support or give support in times of need.

Believe that God loves you

The more you do the steps above, the more God’s love will be revealed to you. You will see that He loves you so much that He sent His only son, Jesus Christ to die for you and provide salvation and a way back to have a relationship with Him. (John 3:16).

If you’ve never heard of this before, it is very confusing! You may have heard it before, but it does not make sense to you, or it sounds like a fairy tale! Why would God even do such a thing? His great love for you of course!

If you believe in God and that He created the universe and everything in it, this will make more sense to you:

God created the first man and woman, Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden in order to have a relationship with them. (Read Genesis 2:4 – 3:24 for their story). Everything was perfect until they committed the one sin God asked them not to do and the rift between mankind and God was established. Adam and Eve were banished from Eden, and thereafter the people who wished to have a relationship with God followed a ritualistic faith where livestock was sacrificed as an offering to God for people to obtain their salvation (repent of their sins) and restore a relationship with Him. (Old Testament days).

In the New Testament, Jesus Christ was sent by God to be the sacrifice for all those people who believe in Him. This is why we no longer do an animal blood sacrifice. The blood of Christ was shed instead, and all mankind gets to choose whether they will accept His sacrifice or not. It is a free will choice that everyone needs to make during their lifetime on earth.

Of course, my explanation is very simplistic and there is so much more to the beautiful story of God’s great love for His beloved mankind, including you and I. I could write for days on this subject, but my intention is just to give an overview here. You are more than welcome to email me on natalie@maturewomanfitness.com if you have more questions. (I just ask that you are respectful and not aggressive as I do not wish to get into arguments about different opinions on religion or my own personal beliefs. That is not the point here).

Believe that God wants the very best for you

One of the most beautiful things I’ve ever read is Luke 12:7 where it says that God knows the number of hairs on my head! On your head – how amazing is that? (of course, some of us have more hair than others, but that does not matter:)) If God knows this detail about you and I, He will surely take care of us:)

The hairs of your head are all numbered

Jeremiah 29:11, another favorite of mine, such beautiful words to inspire hope and comfort!

A future and a hope

Being so overcome by the absolute beauty of God’s Word, here is another to warm your soul! Psalm 139:17 -18. More than the grains of sand (just imagine how much that is) are the thoughts of God towards you and I!

Does God think of me?

Trust God with your life

Proverbs 3:4 & 5, my lifetime favorite! God will direct our paths if we allow Him to. From my perspective, He will do a far better job than I will!

Trust in God

Know that God will NEVER leave you nor forsake you

Even if you have felt forsaken and rejected by others, God will never do that to you!

Deuteronomy 31:6 “Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”

Romans 8:38-39 “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Psalm 27:10 says that even if your mother and father forsake you, God will receive you.

Psalm 139: 7-10:

Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence?
If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there.
If I take the wings of the morning, And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,
Even there Your hand shall lead me, And Your right hand shall hold me.

You CAN strengthen your faith in God if you choose to do so. Seek Him earnestly and you WILL find Him because He wants you to find Him, and He is also seeking you! “But if from there you seek the Lord your God, you will find him if you seek him with all your heart and with all your soul” (Deuteronomy 4:29).

What has strengthened your faith in God? Have you seen Him work in your life? Do you believe that He loves you?

 

 

Post menopause symptoms to tackle head-on and conquer to improve your quality of life in the future

Why on earth would you allow yourself to be miserable and struggling when you can tackle your post menopause symptoms head on and greatly improve your quality of life? Why indeed?

Menopause is a transition time in every woman’s life, it can’t be avoided, and you will go through it whether you go through it kicking and screaming (as many do), or you find a way not only to deal with it, but to thrive in spite of the discomfort!

Trust me, I’m not being glib about this or trying to make you feel bad – I’m in the throes of dealing with the symptoms too!

Post menopause symptoms

Post Menopause Symptoms – What are they?

While the symptoms of menopause may differ widely amongst women (as do PMS symptoms), some of the more common culprits are:

  • Hot flashes/flushes
  • Night sweats 
  • Mood swings
  • More frequent urination
  • Vaginal dryness (and discomfort during sex)
  • Thinning hair
  • Increase in anxiety
  • Sleep disturbances

Difference Between Peri-Menopause, Menopause and Post Menopause

What are the differences between peri-menopause, menopause and post menopause and how do you know which stage you’re in?

Peri-menopause

Peri-menopause usually starts in a woman’s 40’s but can even start in her 30’s. This is the period of time leading up to menopause and can last around 8 – 10 years. You may be fortunate and have barely noticed any syptoms as you will still be having monthly periods, however, behind the scenes, your ovaries will be producing less estrogen than before. Beware, you can still become pregnant at this time! 

You may also start experiencing the above symptoms of menopause. 

Menopause

Menopause occurs when your body has stopped releasing eggs and estrogen levels are minimal. Your period has stopped, or it is intermittent and may remind you of when you first started having periods – irregular and spotting. When you have not had a period for 12 months, you are officially said to be in menopause. 

Now is when your menopause symptoms will be in full swing! You may be prowling around the house at night, unable to sleep, with anxious thoughts and profuse sweating waking you up or keeping you awake. (It may seem like a good idea to lie naked on the floor to alleviate the discomfort!). You may be experiencing mood swings and depression to such an extent that your family becomes concerned. It may cause a change in your relationships because they may feel that you’ve become difficult to relate to, irritable and angry! 

Post Menopause

This is the period of time occuring after you have passed your one year mark without having a period. For some women, the hot flashes, night sweats, anxiety attacks and mood swings may lessen, but for others, they are still tormented by these symptoms. Due to the huge drop in estrogen, postmenopausal women are at increased risk for heart attacks and osteoporosis

On average, this period of time lasts around 4 to 5 years, but it can be shorter or longer. 

How to manage your post menopause symptoms to bring you some relief

The above descriptions sound far from appealing, don’t they? However, it is one of the transitions of life that we have to deal with, and we can either resist it and be miserable and angry all the time, or we can tackle it and not allow it to ruin the promise of the rest of our lives! The latter sounds more appealing to me, how about you?

Natural medication or HRT

For women who still experience frequent and ongoing nasty sypmptoms like hot flashes or night sweats, and it is making your life miserable, it may be wise to speak to your doctor or gynaecologist who can prescribe some natural, herbal treatment (light intervention), or heavier intervention such as HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy – replacing the female hormones that the body no longer makes). 

The jury is out on HRT, with some people in support and others not as clinical trials have shown risks which may (or may not) outweigh the benefits of using it. It is wise referring to your doctor and doing your research before undertaking any such treatment. There are plenty of medical-type websites available to answer all your questions if you are considering HRT as an option. 

Apart from medication, there are several lifestyle changes that will help you to control your post menopause symptoms, and which will in fact, improve your overall health which is a WIN:)

Lifestyle Changes

A lifestyle change is so often much easier to talk about than to do, isn’t it? It requires changing long-held beliefs and habits, and that is quite difficult for most people to do. A lack of motivation, support and resources means that your desired changes are often short-lived. Unfortunately. 

If you sincerely and wholeheartedly want to make lasting changes in your life, here are some steps you can take to increase your chances of long-lasting change

Exercise

I’ll bet you’ve heard this many times before! Exercise is the curer of all ills (is that even a word?). We’ve all heard of the benefits of exercise, but what can it do for your post menopause symptoms? 

  • Helps you lose that post menopause spare tire, the so-called “menopause belly” 
  • Improves your mood and emotions by releasing those “happy hormones” (endorphins)
  • Weight-bearing exercise builds your bone density (slows down/prevents osteoporosis)
  • Improves your mobility and flexibility
  • Builds and maintains muscle mass lost during menopause
  • Builds your strength and confidence
  • Keeps you out of the nursing home (old-age care facility) permanently or for longer
  • Staves off aging so that you can play with your grandchildren:)
  • Lowers your risk of mental health issues such as depression, anxiety and dementia
  • Lowers your risks of blood clots, heart disease and stroke
  • Helps you to feel more physically attractive

exercize in menopause

To experience significant benefits from exercise, you should concentrate on resistance (weight) training at least 3 times per week for a minimum of 30 minutes per session, and increase your weights or repetitions over time to ensure progression. Include some moderate cardio-vascular exercise (walking, treadmill, swimming, dancing, elliptical trainer) twice per week for around 30 minutes per session. 

Clearly, there are huge benefits to be gained from physical activity, far beyond merely helping you cope with post menopause symptoms! What if you have not exercised in years and don’t know what to do? There are so many options you can choose from. You can go to the gym if that appeals to you and invest in a few sessions with a trainer. 

If, like so many women, the gym does not appeal to you (too much equipment you don’t know how to use, too noisy, and too many svelte young people milling around), you can easily get a great workout at home with little equipment!

Also, if gym workouts do not appeal, look at other activities – take up a dance class, cycling or swimming if the climate allows, but remember that you should also do some resistence training for best results (building bone density and lean muscle mass). Find something you enjoy and do it on a regular basis – that is key!

Change in eating habits

Ouch, this is a tough one for many people! If you have eaten whatever you you’ve felt like over the years, no doubt that has contributed to your weigh gain (if you are carrying extra weight) even prior to the onset of menopause. Unhealthy food tastes so good, and it may be a challenge to change over to “clean” eating and fresh, healthy ingredients!

The word “diet” has such negative connotations of suffering and starvation, of eating tasteless, wilted spinach and piles of lettuce leaves! Aargh! Who wants to do that? And where do you even start? Forget a diet – you cannot “go on a diet” if you are looking to improve your health in the long term! This needs to be a LIFESTYLE CHANGE on an ongoing basis.

Some foods may aggravate your symptoms, like:

Processed foods – potato chips/crisps and cookies may be your go-to comfort snacks, but they will lead to bloating and water retention due to the high sodium and sugar content they contain. For a snack alternative to beat the bloat, rather go for baby carrots and hummus dip, or apple slices with peanut butter.

Caffeine – this one is a personal killer for me – I love coffee! Sadly however, coffee and caffeine-containing foodstuffs can worsen hot flashes, so if that is a major pain point to you, there is a decision to be made! Bah! TRy non-caffeine containing teas (herbal teas) and cut down on your coffee consumption. Tough one, I know!

Spicy foods – now you’re killing me! That is another of my favorite foods, but eating spicy foods may also trigger hot flashes! If you eat a lot of spicy food, restrict it to once or twice a week and give your taste buds a chance to taste other foods!

High fat meat products like bacon and lamb – these are said to lower your levels of serotonin (a feel-good hormone) and make you grumpy and irritable. To maintain your good humor, eat leaner cuts of meat such as fat-trimmed joints, chicken, turkey or lean minced meats. 

Fast foods and take-outs – clearly these do not have a place in any healthy eating plan due to the inevitable weight gain, but for post menopausal women who are at a greater risk for heart disease, this category is best kept to a minimum! Too much salt, sugar and unhealthy fat and grease. I know, I know…you may not feel like cooking, you may be in a rush or simply just enjoy the tast, but restrict your current consumption by half and see the difference it makes! 

Alcohol – this has a high sugar content and may also lead to hot flashes for some women. A daily drinking habit (2 – 5 drinks a day) increases your risks of breast cancer and heart disease significantly. The occasional drink or cocktail is okay.A light alternative is a White Wine Spritzer (white wine mixed with mineral or sparkling water) which is light in calories and refreshing! 

The bottom line? Restrict the above categories and include more fresh fruit and vegetables, lean protein like chicken and fish, limit you red meat consumption, and include the “good” fats such as olive oil, coconut oil, avocado, dark chocolate and whole eggs, to name a few. Some yummy stuff there!

Post menopause weight gain

Other changes that will benefit your post menopause symptoms

The main and obvious two lifestyle changes as above of physical exercise and eating habits are body-related and will help you look and feel physically better. 

Who knows that the mind-body connection is so important to our mental health and overall quality of life, throughout life? Especially around menopause and afterwards as we are more prone to depression at that time? 

Soul changes

Anything that has to do with your mind, will or emotions is benefitting your soul. That unique, one-of-a-kind, valuable human being that you are! Here are some things you can do in this area of your life to control and conquer your post menopause symptoms and live a happier life:)

Grow your brain – lifelong learning is a necessary part of human growth and development which stops us from slumping over and becoming depressed and stagnant. We’re not talking here of “heavy” academic learning like taking a college degree (although that is certainly a great goal done by many post menopausal women who go back to college!). You can learn anything new that takes your fancy that you’ve never had a chance to do:) It can be flower-arranging, learning to play the piano, learning a new language,learning a computer language, or even simple computer literacy – whatever floats your boat! 

You will get a great sense of satisfaction from acquiring a new skill which may motivate you to do more!

Take up a challenge – this will give you an amazing sense of purpose and satisfaction as you work towards your particular challenge! It can be anything you REALLY want to do, like a weight loss challenge to lose 40 pounds, or a goal to run 3 miles if you’ve never been a runner before. It can be to complete a public speaking course (a huge challenge for an introvert) and address the women’s group at church, or to go on a horseback safari when you’re wary of horses.

Literally anything is fair game, as long as it is challenging to you! It should not be instantly or easily achievable so that you need to put in effort and work and will then gain great satisfaction from achieving it. It could be a bucket list item involving challenge (I’d love to climb Mount Kilimanjaro!), but it must challenge you and give you some (serious) work to achieve it! What would YOU really love to do? What have you dreamed of achieving?

post menopause challenges

Go for counseling – this is a must if you feel stuck or depressed about life. There is no sense in dragging yourself around in misery when you still have so much to contribute to the world!

Connect with friends – women have a great need of supportive friendships throughout life. Especially now, in this time of transition, you need to get with those people who understand where you’re coming from and are rowing the same boat (menopause, post menopause) as you. Even if your husband/partner is your best friend, there is no way he can truly understand what you’re going through!

Helping others – this is great soul food, when you can give of yourself to others in need, and there are so many people in need in this world. Use your skills, talents and resources to make life better for the vulnerable. Doing so will not only help them, but will give you immense satisfaction as well. As human beings, we are relational beings and helping others is great soul food!

Spiritual changes

An often neglected part of us as human beings is the spiritual aspect. We are three-dimensional beings, consisting of body, soul and spirit. Your spirit is who you are at your very core, the part of you that connects with the Almighty. 

I once read something that resonated with me: “every (wo)man has a God-shaped vacuum inside of them that will never be filled without connecting to the Almighty”. I’ve seen so many people who seem to have it all – money, wealth, power, good looks and great success, yet they are desperately empty human beings, always searching, wanting more and never being satisfied! 

I find that sad. It’s a strong case for looking into yourself and checking out your spiritual connection. Perhaps the lack of a connection is the problem?

If you have a relationship with God, remember that He cares for every part of your life, including your struggles with menopause or post menopause symptoms! Unbelievable as that may seem! He knows every hair on our head (Luke 12:7), isn’t that amazing? 

In short, speak to God about your discomfort in this phase of your life. Ask Him to help you and show you how to conquer the issues you are experiencing! Then do that! 

If you have never pursued this part of your life, this may well be the missing link! You may be wondering about the purpose of life, or what  your purpose in life is, especially in this stage of your life. Those are questions we all ask, and have to answer for ourselves. 

You may feel that you are not a spiritual person. You may believe that you’re not a religious person (or have been put off religion for any number of reasons!). This is not about religion. It is about you connecting with the Creator of the Universe personally! It is the ONLY way for you to find your true inner peace, and your purpose. If you’ve done everything else in your power to do and you still feel empty, this is why. 

The Bottom line…

As a woman, when you get to a certain age, you will go through menopause and then come out on the other side. You can either kick and scream and fight it every step of the way (which serves no purpose as you will go through it anyway), or you can put a plan in action and tackle each aspect to ensure that you thrive during this phase of your life! You may be finding it the toughest stage of your life, but you can make it your best stage!

How about you? Have you found menopause and post menopause tough? What has worked for you? 

Depression in Menopause may be Your Ultimate Wake-Up Call to Shake up Your Life and Live Happily Ever After

Depression, as we all know, is a serious matter and can be life-threatening at it’s worst. This post is particularly geared towards women who have not experienced prior depression to any serious degree before, but are suddenly confronted with what seems like depression in menopause.

If you have a family history of depression, or have had a diagnosis of depression, and have been or are being treated for it, you need to use this post purely for insight! Some elements may still ring true for you, as you may find that the depression seems worse now in midlife.

Depression in menopause

Menopause and depression have common symptoms

If you’ve gone through menopause (or are still clutched in its greedy claws), you will be familiar with its many and varied symptoms. The hot flashes, night sweats, menopause belly, mood swings, disturbed sleep or insomnia, dry skin and hair, and dwindling interest in sex (to name but a few), are all too common and leave you feeling like you’ve lost the plot of your life!

On top of all that, you may have increased feelings of anxiety, you feel stressed out more often than not and are more irritable than usual.

Depression in menopause is often not easy to identify as the symptoms of depression and menopause are similar in many ways. These similar symptoms include sleep disturbances, irritability, lapse in concentration, fatigue, loss of confidence and feelings of anxiety. In this way, what you think are merely symptoms of menopause and something you just have to get through during this phase of your life, are actually symptoms of depression.

Research shows that women are in fact, often at increased risk of depression during midlife, and it is important to be able to tell the difference between depression and the “normal” symptoms of menopause.

Are you depressed, or is this “normal” menopause?

So, if the symptoms of menopause and depression are similar in many ways, how do you know if you are in fact depressed, or if you are experiencing symptoms of menopause which is not as serious?

Good question! There are however, some markers which would indicate that you are experiencing depression and not only symptoms of menopause.

Signs of midlife depression (or any depression, for that matter)

  • Low mood which is consistent and lasts daily for over two weeks
  • Feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness
  • Extreme fatigue and loss of energy where you find it difficult some days to get out of bed
  • Changes in your normal eating habits – mainly loss of appetite
  • Loss of interest in activities you used to enjoy
  • Disrupted sleep patterns which may include bad dreams or feelings of dread
  • Lack of purpose in life where you feel that there is no direction in your life
  • Either extreme irritability with those around you, or withdrawing from them
  • Feeling like all the good days of your life are over and there is nothing good left
  • Thoughts of suicide – feeling like it does not matter if you live or die
  • Others have noticed your personality changes and hopeless state of mind

If you recognize yourself here, get help!

While we may all experience a few of these symptoms from time to time, we’re talking about enduring many or most of these symptoms over a prolonged period of time, with an overwhelming feeling of hopelessness.

If you, or anyone you know, is experiencing several of the above symptoms, please, take action! No one should suffer like this! Arrange some counselling, either through a church (who often offer counselling services if you are strapped for cash), or through a licensed therapist who can help you navigate this challenge in your life.

At the very least, speak to a good and trusted friend or family member who can offer you support at this time. The worst thing you can do is to curl up into a little ball of hurt and not seek help!

You may need medication, at least for a while, and there is no shame in that. Other things which may help you to cope with depression is undertaking some life changes – start regular exercise, eat healthy, volunteer programs and look after your health.

Low self-esteem

Why do so many midlife women seem depressed? Does menopause cause depression?

There is no definite answer to this, but some research has indicated that women in midlife are at an increased risk of depression compared to women in other phases of life. A possible reason for this is a family history of depression, or prior personal episodes of depression. This is understandable as life transitions are always challenging to negotiate.

But what if you have never been depressed before, and there is no family history of depression? Where did this depression suddenly come from at this stage of your life?

Research suggests that the midlife phase of a woman’s life is one of the most challenging phases to be faced in her lifetime. The life stressors and role changes you will experience during midlife are significant, and the way that you negotiate this phase of your life willl have a profound impact on the quality of the rest of your life.

Life stressors in midlife women

Although every phase of life produces its own set of life stressors (life stressors are major life events which impact your life), the stressors in midlife women have significant impacts. You may experience these life stressors to varying degrees depending on your particular set of life circumstances during this life phase.

The onset of menopause

  • Significant physical changes impact this life event, the most noticeable being the loss of menstrual periods. While this may be a cause of celebration for many women, others may experience a sense of loss of no longer being able to bear children. They may feel in a sense that they have lost their femininity, or even that they have lost their sense of purpose (motherhood).
  • The various menopause symptoms also cause physical discomfort, much like younger women experiencing PMS (pre-menstrual syndrome) with cramps, moodiness and backache. The menopausal woman has different aches and pains with their declining estrogen levels, even though they no longer experience period pains. They now have hot flashes, night sweats, loss of bone mineral density which can lead to osteoporosis, foot problems, thinning hair and general aches and pains.
  • Of course, different women will experience different symptoms at different intensities, much like younger women experience PMS and childbirth at different levels of intensity!

The “Empty Nest”

After nurturing their children for many years, having them live at home and caring for them daily, it is often difficult when children grow up and leave home. you may experience sadness and loneliness, particularly if you have no life partner living with you, or if you are in a bad marriage which often becomes more apparent once the children leave home. You could well end up feeling like your life purpose is over.

The death of your parents

If your parents live to a ripe old age, you may well be going through your midlife phase when they pass on. Even though you are independent and have raised your own family and may not have even lived close to them, most people feel a significant loss when their parents pass on.

The death of your spouse

  • You may face the loss of your spouse when you are going through midlife, especially if there have been health issues present.  This is a devastating life change for anyone, even more so if you have spent most of your life with that person.
  • Depending on your financial situation, and if there were any life insurance policies, you may then also face some financial difficulties. It may even be necessary for you to get a job even if you have not worked in years. This could prove difficult, depending on your skills and age, and this adds to your stress.

Divorce in midlife

  • Many people may stay in an unhealthy marriage and never resolve their issues as they feel that they are “staying together for the children”. Some couples remain married for years, only to divorce in midlife after the children leave home.
  • Often, midlife divorce turns out to be a great source of regret in later life. The “midlife crisis” period may lead you to feel that you will be happier without your spouse, or there may be a midlife fling with another individual on either side. You may just feel that you’re not happy right now, and that you deserve to live out your remaining years in happiness, feeling like the grass will be greener on the other side, away from your spouse.
  • Regardless of whether you initiate the divorce or are opposed to it, the lifestyle changes you will experience are enormous and may lead to regret later. This will be the subject of a future post.

Divorce in midlife

Change in your work life/retirement

You will retire during this phase of your life, depending on where you live and your country’s laws and expectations. If you have been employed all your life, perhaps have a high-level job, or you have put your whole life into your work, having to retire may leave you feeling unfulfilled, useless and depressed. You may be at loose ends with yourself, wondering how to fill up your days, especially if you are not involved with other hobbies, interests, clubs or charity/church work.

Role changes for midlife women

From young, childbearing womanhood to mature (non-childbearing) womanhood

  • Your time to be a young, childbearing mommy has passed. You’ve been there, done that, and worn out the t-shirt! You may miss those days, or you may be glad they’re over. No more pregnancy, childbirth, sleepless nights (from babies and small children anyway), teething, nappies, school lunch making, mom’s taxi or childcare responsibilities.
  • Depending on your state of mind, you may enjoy your new role free of childcare responsibilities, although, once a mother, always a mother! You are still there, ready to support and guide, but you no longer have the day-to-day “heavy lifting” duties of motherhood.
  • Some women grieve the loss of their childbearing (fertile) years, fearing that they are no longer attractive, they’ve lost their femininity, and that the world is geared up to young, attractive women, and that there is no place for them. Feeling too much like this is more likely to lead you to depression.

 Mother to grandmother

  • You may become a grandmother in midlife, although many women become grandmothers much earlier than that. Although you will always be a mother, you are now a grandmother to your baby’s babies which is a different role for you.
  • You can support your children through their parenting years (to the extent that they will allow), but the final responsibility for their children rests with them! They should be experiencing the sleepless nights, teething and anxieties related to parenting children just as you did with them.

Carer for your aging and ailing parents

  • You may now find yourself taking decisions on behalf of your elderly parents and caring for them as they once did for you. The roles are now reversed, and you may need to assist them with their physical needs just as they did for you all those years ago.
  • It is hard to watch your strong caregiver parent sometimes reduced to frailty and dependency due to illness or old age. They may need you to do embarrassing tasks for them like they did for you as a young child. such as taking them to the toilet, changing diapers and feeding them. This can be a very stressful time for both of you.

Caring for an entire family to caring only for you and your husband, or even living alone

  • As your children grow up, they tend to spend less time at home with you, even if they are still officially living at home. They make plans with friends, come home late or even sleep out, and generally do their own thing. And then they move out.
  • And you are no longer doing the things that you were doing for years. As their independence has grown and their lives have changed, so has yours whether you felt ready for it or not…
  • No more large and noisy family dinners around the table, everyone talking and laughing, where you could not get a word in edge-ways. Now it’s quiet, only the two of you (or you may be alone), and this can feel quite lonely.

You can see that the life stressors and role changes that women face in midlife are significant, and can easily lead to feeling depressed and overwhelmed! You may also have the sense that “life has passed you by” and that all the good stuff is over.

Women in midlife clearly have more than enough to be depressed about, but you don’t have to stay in that space now that you realize that you are not crazy, and you are not alone! The things of old have passed away, you need to look forward and if you are unhappy with your life at the moment, do something about it if you can.

Let this be the “shake-up” you need to transform your life. Assess your life, do some things for yourself that you could not do whilst raising a family. Be careful of making decisions in haste though, as you don’t want to live with regret.

Look at the next blog post for some practical ways to shake up your life!

Have you experienced (increased) depression in menopause? Has it led to growth for you, or is it an ongoing struggle?

Free Work at Home Opportunities

The dream of working from home

If working from home is something you’ve always dreamed of, you may have been wondering what to pick, and if you could really make money from it. You may be tired of the corporate grind, or you’re simply done with working for a boss!

Unreasonable boss
Demanding Boss

Maybe you have not worked outside your home for years, after raising children and running a home. For people over 50 years of age, this may be more likely than the younger generations. Expectations of women were different for those born in the 1960’s and earlier.  Staying at home to raise your children was more of a norm than it is today, and many women never returned to the workplace afterward. Those who did want to may have found it difficult to get decent employment after a long break.

Work from home jobs that are not scams

Perhaps you are wondering about the existence of work from home jobs that are not scams? We all know that there are plenty of those around! Sadly, many of us have fallen victim to these online charlatans and scammers. Outrageous claims of riches to be earned with little money, time or effort, in fact, anything that sounds too good to be true usually is!

Scam signs
Work from home jobs that are not scams

Truth be told, if you are keen to work from home there are a few options you can choose and avoid being scammed. Some may not be entirely free, but you can use many of your own resources and save money. You can set up a small business to run from your home. You are the boss, you can set your own times and use the skills you have gained and that you enjoy! Some ideas are:

Baking or cooking from home

If spending time in the kitchen appeals to you, and you have a fitted kitchen which can cope with larger volumes of productivity than simple family fare, this may be your dream work from home opportunity.

Home Baking
Baking at home for orders

Perhaps you are a baker of note and are renowned amongst your family and friends for your apple pie, brownies or tiramisu. You can share the deliciousness further afield in your community! Put out the word on community noticeboards, newspapers and social media groups. Let your existing fans spread the word. Many people are happy to pay for fresh, not commercially mass-produced confectionary.

You could specialize in catering for events, or even baking specialty cakes if you have the skill. Most people live fast-paced lives and do not have the skill or time to do this. You can offer various add-ons like delivery within a certain radius or decor elements like colored paper plates and paper napkins. This may be useful for an office event or children’s party.

Make money from your crafty skills

Perhaps you have skills or a passion for making crafty or handmade items? This could be from years of sewing dance or concert costumes, or from making all your home decor items which draw admiring comments from your friends. In a fast-paced world where many women have never learned to sew, knit or crochet, you can use these skills to put money in your pocket!

If you are skilled at sewing and have a good quality sewing machine, you can sew prom dresses, offer to sew costumes for a dance studio or do alterations for costumes which don’t fit.

If you enjoy a hobby such as jewelry-making and you have the required tools, you can make and sell items further afield than just your friends and family. You can make to order jewelry items for weddings or proms.

Beaded jewelry
Making money with crafts – jewelry making

You can try your hand at almost anything that you are passionate about and have some skill in.

Business-related skills

If you have finely-tuned business skills, can type up a storm and have great English language (or your home language) skills, you can offer your services as a Virtual Assistant and work from your own home office if you have the equipment. Many opportunities exist for this online. You can try Fiverr or Upwork amongst others. Rates vary widely, but the more skills you can offer the better the pay.

My reservation with using these online platforms is that you may struggle to get work competing against people from all over the world who offer their services at unrealistically low prices. At Fiverr, you create a profile and offer your services, and then it can be a long wait before anyone contacts you ( that was my experience but it may be different for you). With Upwork, you create a profile and then bid on advertised jobs on the platform in the hopes of winning the bid. Just be careful of using too many credits (they give you free credits to bid for jobs in their free option), as if you bid on too many jobs you qualify for but you don’t happen to win (through no fault of your own), they will suspend your account immediately and that’s the end of that!

Making money from freelance writing

If writing is your passion (as it is mine!), and you have great English skills and can turn a phrase or two, you may have an opportunity to make money from it. The only thing you need here is a good laptop, your notepad for ideas, your imagination, and your great writing skills!

writing by hand
Freelance writing

You can offer your services on Fiverr and Upwork again in freelance writing categories, but they are not my favorites as mentioned already. Although I made money, the amount of output you produce in time and effort far outweighs the rewards. Again, your experience may be different from mine. Perhaps you’ll be more successful than me at writing bid proposals 🙂

My favorite platform at the moment for selling my writing is Constant Content. This platform is disliked by many as they take a hefty 35% commission for any of your work sold on their platform! That being so, I like them for the following reasons:

They are a trusted resource for many website owners and online businesses. This is because Constant Content only accepts work of good quality, and they have strict guidelines. You have to submit a writing sample with your online application on a subject of their choice, and it has to be approved before you are accepted.

You are thus not competing with people who have poor English skills (English is their second or third language), and so you can charge better rates than the content mills like Upwork and Fiverr. (Most of my articles have sold at around $100 for around 870 to 1000 words. In the content mills, you have to charge much lower to be competitive and the buyers seem more concerned with cheap rather than quality! There is no quality control).

If you are new to writing and do not yet have an audience to sell your work to, Constant Content is a good option. When you submit an article, it undergoes a review by an editor before it is accepted. If it is unacceptable, they give you some suggestions for improvements and you can resubmit once done.

You set the amount you want to charge for your article (they give you some guidelines and ranges which is helpful), and you can factor in the Constant Content commission.

You also get to choose the topics you want to write about, they do not dictate this to you. You can write about anything that you are knowledgeable or passionate about! This is a huge boon to me, and I love writing about what I want to write about!

Once you are established and have a client base, you may decide that the commission is too steep and give it a miss, but it is a good start to launch your writing career. It is great to get an email saying “Your article has been sold!”

Blogging to make money from the internet

This may be something you’ve heard a lot about. Blogging is a popular choice for many who want to make money online. You may have avoided this option up to now because you don’t know where to start. Perhaps you feel that you won’t know what to blog about? Simply anything that you are interested in or know a little about can become food for your blog!

blogging
Your own blog

You can share your experiences and insights with the world…if you have a wonderfully neat and tidy home, you may be able to start a blog on organizing your home. If you own sixteen cats and love everything cat-related, you can blog on cats! If you have 8 amazing grandchildren and are an expert granny, you could blog about being a grandmother and what it means to you! Once you have a blog up and running, there are several ways to earn money from it.

How to make a free website

However, before you can blog, you need to have your own website. That is a daunting prospect to those of us who were born before the age of technology! You may feel that you have absolutely no idea where to begin and be a little afraid to begin.

Laptop for blogging
A blogger needs a good laptop

You may also feel that it is too expensive. Apart from a decent laptop, you will need a good hosting platform and a training course to teach you how to develop an online business. I have great news for you! You can have not one, but two totally free websites to begin developing your blogs. Not just any websites either, they are WordPress websites of the best quality! In addition, you get free lessons on how to begin developing your sites, and there is step-by-step support from the developers and the large community of users. I get such satisfaction from the community of experts and feel like I learn something new every day, and learning new things is another passion of mine!

This is the very same platform I got started on, as a total “dummy” in terms of website development with NO technical skills at all! This website is one that I’ve built from a clueless position, and I’ve had the time of my life doing it!

website building
How to make a free website

Benefits of having your own website

If your aim is to make money online, or even with your own small business like mentioned above, each one of those options needs and will benefit greatly from a website! 

You can advertise your passionate interest in baking on your very own site and offer free recipes and tips to your potential customers, sell your crafts online, even to overseas markets (how exciting!), or advertise your business or freelance writing skills online to potential customers.

If you’re interested in building your own WordPress website from a trusted platform for free (even 2 of them), you have nothing to lose by giving it a try! I’m confident that you will be as intrigued and love it as much as I do:)

There are options to work from home if you are willing to put in time and effort. Nothing good comes for free! You can start part-time in some of them (building your own site is particularly conducive to this), and earn some extra cash to supplement your day job if you have one, with a view to scaling up and perhaps going full-time as the need arises.

You CAN use your interests and experience to earn some extra cash. Start today!

 

How Do You Get Osteoporosis and How To Thrive Despite It

Skeleton bones
Osteoporosis – brittle bones

Osteoporosis is a word that sounds quite scary, and you may remember hearing the word when you were much younger, usually in connection with little old ladies falling and breaking their hips (or what you thought of as old at the time!). How do you get Osteoporosis? To answer this, it is helpful to know what it is first.

What is Osteoporosis when it’s at home?

Simply put, Osteoporosis is the loss of bone mass without the replenishment of it. In young people, your body naturally builds new bone, but as we age, our bodies slow down the production of bone mass, and bone loss starts to occur. This loss of bone density leads to a condition called Osteoporosis which causes brittle bones and increased risks of fractures. Continue reading “How Do You Get Osteoporosis and How To Thrive Despite It”

What is Phlegmatic: The Calm and Friendly Negotiator of World Peace

Knowing what is Phlegmatic as it relates to a personality type will lead you to one word above all. This person will always be described as a NICE person by the other personality types. How do you know what type of personality you have? You can try this free online test to get your basic temperament type, and then read the resources on this blog for greater detail.

The overview of the 4 personality type model is explained here in a less intellectual and easy to understand way! This post puts the spotlight on the Phlegmatic personality traits. Find links for the other personality types at the end of this post.

Relaxed Phlegmatic
Relaxed Phlegmatic Personality

Continue reading “What is Phlegmatic: The Calm and Friendly Negotiator of World Peace”

What is Melancholy: Creative Genius with a Sensitive Soul

Lonely Melancholy
Melancholy Personality enjoys solitude

What exactly does melancholy mean? It may be a word you’ve heard many times before, especially if you read a lot – and it describes one of the four major temperament types dating back to the time of Hippocrates (460-370 BC).

Knowing the 4 temperament types and their major traits will help you understand them (and yourself) better. This will lead to better relationships and getting the outcomes you want. Try this 5 minute online personality test to find out what type you are!

This post explores the Melancholy temperament in more detail. you will find links to the other 3 types at the end of the post.

Introvert or Extrovert?

Melancholy people are one of the two INTROVERT personalities in the 4 temperament theory of personality. If you are an extrovert, you will not be predominantly a Melancholy, but you may be blended with the extrovert Choleric personality, or less likely, the extrovert Sanguine personality. Continue reading “What is Melancholy: Creative Genius with a Sensitive Soul”

What is Choleric: The Dynamic Competitor & Righter of Wrongs

Choleric winner
Cholerics win

The term “choleric” is very descriptive in terms of a distinctive personality type, and knowing what is choleric behavior and traits will help you in your relationships with this strong temperament type.

To find out what your personality type is, you can use this 5 minute online test. Detailed information on all 4 types will be found in this blog – Choleric attributes in this post, and there are links for the other 3 types at the bottom of this post.

Introvert or Extrovert?

Choleric individuals are EXTROVERTS, the same as Sanguine people. The main difference between these two temperaments is that Cholerics don’t talk quite as much as Sanguines, although they are by no means quiet. They ALWAYS speak with a purpose, not just for the sake of talking. Continue reading “What is Choleric: The Dynamic Competitor & Righter of Wrongs”